Divorced & Separated


Surviving Divorce Support Groups

Surviving Divorce is a powerful DVD series and support group format to help separated and divorced Catholics find peace, power, and renewed passion for life. This 12-week program features one 30-minute DVD shown each week, covering topics of shock, denial, anger, grief, guilt, forgiveness and much more, as well as discussion opportunities. Whether you were divorced ten days ago or ten years ago, the program offers valuable insight for everyone.

If you are interested in starting a group at your parish, please contact Jane Guenther at 314.792.7734 or [email protected].

Surviving Divorce Group Offerings

Ascension (Chesterfield)
230 Santa Maria Dr, Chesterfield, MO 63005 Multipurpose Room Annex
Thursdays beginning September 5th through November 21st, 2019 7pm to 9pm

Contact: Lucia Hill at 314.757.1869 or [email protected] or Barb Kelley at 636.541.6381 or [email protected] 

Christ, Prince of Peace (Manchester)
415 Weidman Rd., Manchester, MO  63011
Tuesday 6:30pm to 8:30pm begins May 7, 2019
Contact: Julie Licavoli at 314.922.6496 or [email protected]

Immaculate Conception (Arnold)
2300 Church Rd., Arnold, MO 63010
Contact: Regina Staloch at [email protected]

Immaculate Conception (Dardenne Prairie)
7701 State Highway N, Dardenne Prairie, MO 63368 
Begins on January 8th, 2020 & will run the 12 weeks  7pm-9pm  (Will meet in the St. Justin room - lower level of church)
Contact: Debi Jones-Orf at [email protected]

Mary, Mother of the Church (Mattese)
5901 Kerth Rd., St. Louis, MO 63128 (in the Annex)
Begins Thursday, September 5th through Thursday, November 21st
7pm to 9pm
Contact: Rob Telthorst at 314.320.0605 or Linda Wisneski at [email protected]

St. Elizabeth of Hungary (Crestwood)
1420 Sappington Rd., St. Louis, MO 63126
Begins Thursday, September 26th, starting at 6 pm
Contact: Jen Ryan at 314.968.0760 (ext. 12) or email [email protected]

St. Francis Borgia (Washington) 
115 Cedar St., Washington, MO 63090
Contact: Jennifer Hill at 636.239.6701

seven holy founders (affton)
6741 rock hill rd., affton, mo 63123
contact: don gayou at [email protected] or call 314.406.3098


more groups are coming soon--please contact jane guenther if you know of any currently not listed, or would like more information.


divorced and separated ministry is taking off! our goal is to have a support group nearby for anyone in our archdiocese who wants one.

will you help us?

the surviving divorce facilitator training is for people who have gained some distance and healing from their own divorce and separation, and would like to facilitate a small group for others to do the same.

surviving divorce is a 12-week course dealing with many of the wounds that follow divorce, especially betrayal, loneliness and desperation. being a facilitator is not the same as being a therapist.

the training is free. in addition, the office of marriage & family life will need permission from the pastor for 1) the parish to have a surviving divorce group, and 2) for the individual who attended the training to lead it.

please contact jane guenther for more details: [email protected] or 314.792.7734. 


Commonly Asked Questions

The second video briefly answers a few of the most common questions people have about the annulment process:

If you have any questions about the videos, or would like more information on Surviving Divorce (described above), contact Jane Guenther at 314.792.7734 or [email protected]



Never Alone (Quarterly Newsletter):  A newsletter for the divorced and separated, created by the Office of Marriage & Family Life to provide support and resources.

Click Here for the August 2019 Newsletter

Click Here for the April 2019 Newsletter


Faith Journeys Foundation, Inc. (A Catholic Pastoral Care Program to Help Children of Divorce)

Faith Journeys is dedicated to providing parishes, schools and Dioceses with the tools and expertise to offer Catholic-based group programs for children and adolescents from divorced or separated families so they may heal more fully, grow stronger in their faith, and enter marriage free of the burdens of unresolved grief.  Faith Journeys offers an award-winning, Catholic-based model of accompaniment and mentoring for children experiencing parental divorce, separation or remarriage.

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Help for Troubled Marriages

Retrouvaille is a program designed to provide help and support to married couples who are undergoing difficulties in their relationship, for those who are hurting in brokenness and loneliness. It has also proven helpful to couples who are separated and divorced. Although Retrouvaille is Catholic in origin, couples from all or no faith traditions are welcome to attend. Click here or email [email protected] for more information.

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The Institute for Marital Healing

The mission of the Institute for Marital Healing is to strengthen Catholic marriages and families by educating spouses, marital therapists and clergy about common causes of conflicts in marital self-giving and effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. Through a combination of online resources, educational programs and publications, the Institute employs a time-tested approach to marital therapy that recognizes the importance of both science and faith in the process of marital healing.

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Annulments and the Catholic Church: Straight Answers to Tough Questions - Edward Peters, J.D., J.C.D.

Many questions abound regarding this issue, one which unfortunately touches the lives of many in the Church today. In this helpful book, canon and civil lawyer Edward N. Peters clears up some of the confusion by answering the most commonly-asked annulment questions in a thorough yet easy-to-understand style.

Courage to Love... When Your Marriage Hurts - Gerald Foley

Building on the experience of Retrouvaille, a successful church-sponsored ministry, this book focuses on building relationships. It invites couples to reconciliation, to rebuilding trust, to learning the skills necessary for healthy communication, and to growing spiritually through the lived reality of married life. 

December Roses: Pastoral Reflections on Divorce - Hector M. Medina

Though much literature has been written on this topic, this book details the thought processes associated with the planning and execution of a divorce and the painful emotions and feelings which occur, while at the same time providing a means of prayerful healing for those involved in the divorce situation. 

The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage - Michele Weiner Davis

In a down-to-earth style, Weiner Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship. 

How to Understand & Petition for Your Decree of Nullity - Rose Sweet

Only God can see deeply into the human heart. He knows how human frailty and weakness, and inabilities of some people to enter into marriage freely and fully despite their best attempts. After careful study of such an attempted union, the Church may be able to declare that no valid marriage bond was created. And this book will help you understand the process. 

Marriage 911: How God Saved Our Marriage - Greg & Julie Alexander

Greg and Julie Alexander thought divorce was the only way out of their lifeless, loveless marriage. Quite unexpectedly, a faithful priest guided them back to the truths of the Church, and as they began to incorporate these truths into their lives, they were able to restore the love they once had for each other. Marriage 911 chronicles their journey back from the brink of divorce to marital happiness built on a strong Catholic faith. 

Rebuilding After Divorce: Making Your House a Home Again - Rose Sweet

Whether you've recently divorced or it's been a few years, you can rebuild a life rich in faith, hope, and lots of love. But first you'll need blueprints, clear directions to make your house a home again. For over 20 years, Rose Sweet has brought her wit and wisdom to the separated, divorced, and remarried.


Additional Links

Answers to Common Questions about Separation and Divorce  A document prepared by the Archdiocese of St. Louis, with material from Rose Sweet 

Divorced Catholic We invite you on a journey back to a life filled with promise and peace. Allow Christ to walk with you as you rediscover His healing and rejuvenating power through the wisdom, richness, and truth of your Catholic faith. 

Catholic Divorce Ministry Since 1974, CDM has been committed to the healing and recovery of those who have experienced separation and divorce. 

If you would like help finding a Catholic marriage counselor, please feel free to contact the Office of Marriage and Family Life.

"Relationships and circumstances within your family may have changed, but God’s love for you is ever present and does not come to an end. Grasp the hands of those who reach out to you in loving concern. Extend your own hand to others whom you meet on the road to healing and reconciliation. There is a home for you within our parishes and communities of faith."

(US Bishops’ 1994 pastoral message to families, Follow the Way of Love).