Divorced & Separated


Surviving Divorce Support Groups

Surviving Divorce is a powerful DVD series and support group format to help separated and divorced Catholics find, peace, power, and renewed passion for life. This 12-week program features one 30-minute DVD shows each week, covering topics of shock, denial, anger, grief, guilt, forgiveness and much more, as well as discussion opportunities. Whether you were divorced ten days ago or ten years ago, the program offers valuable insight for everyone.

If you are interested in starting a group at your parish, please contact Julie Bostick at 314.792.7180 or juliebostick@archstl.org.

Surviving Divorce Group Offerings


Ascension (Chesterfield)
230 Santa Maria Dr, Chesterfield, MO 63005
Contact: Lucia Hill at 314.757.1869 or luciamhill@yahoo.com or Barb Kelley at 636.541.6381 or bakelley616@global.net

Christ, Prince of Peace (Manchester)
415 Weidman Rd., Manchester, MO  63011
Contact: Julie Licavoli at 314.922.6496 or juleslrdh@gmail.com

Immaculate Conception (Arnold) 
2300 Church Rd., Arnold, MO 63010
Contact: Regina at reginastaloch@charter.net

Immaculate Conception (Dardenne Prairie) 
7701 State Highway N, Dardenne Prairie, MO 63368 
Contact: Debi at debijo@att.net or call 314.276.3859

Incarnate Word (Chesterfield)
13416 Olivd Blvd., Chesterfield, MO  63017
Donna O'Donnell at d-odonnell@sbcglobal.net or call 636.288.2417

Mary, Mother of the Church (Mattese)
5901 Kerth Rd., St. Louis, MO 63128 
Contact: Rob Telthorst at 314.320.0605

St. Francis Borgia (Washington)
115 Cedar St., Washington, MO 63090
Contact: Jennifer Hill at 636.239.6701

More groups are coming soon--please contact Julie Bostick if you know of any not currently listed, or would like more information.


Surviving Divorce Facilitator Training

Next training: April 6, 2019, 9:00 AM to 2:00 PM

Divorced and Separated Ministry is taking off! Our goal is to have a support group nearby for ANYONE in our Archdiocese who wants one.

Will you help us?

The Surviving Divorce Facilitator Training is for people who have gained some distance and healing from their own divorce and separation, and would like to facilitate a small group for others to do the same.

Surviving Divorce is a 12-week course dealing with many of the wounds that follow divorce, especially betrayal, loneliness and desperation. Being a facilitator is NOT the same as becoming a therapist.

The training is free, the only cost is for materials. In addition, the Office of Marriage & Family Life will need permission from the pastor for 1) the parish to have a Surviving Divorce group, and 2) for the individual who attended the training to lead it.

Please contact Julie Bostick in the Office of Marriage & Family Life for more details: juliebostick@archstl.org or 314.792.7180. 

Commonly Asked Questions

The second video briefly answers a few of the most common questions people have about the annulment process:

If you have any questions about the videos, or would like more information on Surviving Divorce  (described above), contact Julie Bostick at 314.792.7180 or juliebostick@archstl.org.

"Finding Comfort & Peace During the Holidays" - An  Evening for the Divorced & Separated

Thursday, December 13, 2018, 6:30-8:30 PM, Cardinal Rigali Center, 20 Archbishop May Dr., St. Louis, MO  63119

Presented by Greg DeNeal, a Licensed Professional Counselor

This is a free event. Please RSVP to Julie Bostick, juliebostick@archstl.org or 314.792.7180.

Annual Divorced/Separated Healing Mass

Mary, Mother of the Church Parish, 5901 Kerth Rd., St. Louis, MO  63128
Sunday, Dec. 2, 2018
6:00 PM, followed by a gathering in the parish hall with light refreshments

Faith Journeys

Faith Journeys is dedicated to supporting young people and young adults from separated or divorced families in their journey towards growth. They also serve children who are experiencing significant losses as a result of other family changes. They provide programs for schools and parishes, as well as resources for children of all ages.

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Help for Troubled Marriages

Retrouvaille is a program designed to provide help and support to married couples who are undergoing difficulties in their relationship, for those who are hurting in brokenness and loneliness. It has also proven helpful to couples who are separated and divorced. Although Retrouvaille is Catholic in origin, couples from all or no faith traditions are welcome to attend. Click here or email 2019@retrouvaille.org for more information.

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The Institute for Marital Healing

The mission of the Institute for Marital Healing is to strengthen Catholic marriages and families by educating spouses, marital therapists and clergy about common causes of conflicts in marital self-giving and effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. Through a combination of online resources, educational programs and publications, the Institute employs a time-tested approach to marital therapy that recognizes the importance of both science and faith in the process of marital healing.

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Annulments and the Catholic Church: Straight Answers to Tough Questions - Edward Peters, J.D., J.C.D.

Many questions abound regarding this issue, one which unfortunately touches the lives of many in the Church today. In this helpful book, canon and civil lawyer Edward N. Peters clears up some of the confusion by answering the most commonly-asked annulment questions in a thorough yet easy-to-understand style.

Courage to Love... When Your Marriage Hurts - Gerald Foley

Building on the experience of Retrouvaille, a successful church-sponsored ministry, this book focuses on building relationships. It invites couples to reconciliation, to rebuilding trust, to learning the skills necessary for healthy communication, and to growing spiritually through the lived reality of married life. 

December Roses: Pastoral Reflections on Divorce - Hector M. Medina

Though much literature has been written on this topic, December Roses details the thought processes associated with the planning and execution of a divorce and the painful emotions and feelings which occur, while at the same time providing a means of prayerful healing for those involved in the divorce situation. 

The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage - Michele Weinar Davis

In a down-to-earth style, Weiner Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship. 

How to Understand & Petition for Your Decree of Nullity - Rose Sweet

Only God can see deeply into the human heart. He knows how human frailty and weakness, and inabilities of some people to enter into marriage freely and fully despite their best attempts. After careful study of such an attempted union, the Church may be able to declare that no valid marriage bond was created. And this book will help you understand the process. 

Marriage 911: How God Saved Our Marriage - Greg & Julie Alexander

Greg and Julie Alexander thought divorce was the only way out of their lifeless, loveless marriage. Quite unexpectedly, a faithful priest guided them back to the truths of the church, and as they began to incorporate these truths into their lives, they were able to restore the love they once had for each other. Marriage 911 chronicles their journey back from the brink of divorce to marital happiness built on a strong Catholic faith. 

Rebuilding After Divorce: Making Your House a Home Again - Rose Sweet

Whether you've recently divorced or it's been a few years, you can rebuild a life rich in faith, hope, and lots of love. But first you'll need blueprints, clear directions to make your house a home again. For over 20 years, Rose Sweet has brought her wit and wisdom to the separated, divorced, and remarried.


Additional Links

Answers to Common Questions about Separation and Divorce  A document prepared by the Archdiocese of St. Louis, with material from Rose Sweet 

Divorced Catholic We invite you on a journey back to a life filled with promise and peace. Allow Christ to walk with you as you rediscover His healing and rejuvenating power through the wisdom, richness, and truth of your Catholic faith. 

Catholic Divorce Ministry Since 1974, CDM has been committed to the healing and recovery of those who have experienced separation and divorce. 

If you would like help finding a Catholic marriage counselor, please feel free to contact the Office of Marriage and Family Life.

"Relationships and circumstances within your family may have changed, but God’s love for you is ever present and does not come to an end. Grasp the hands of those who reach out to you in loving concern. Extend your own hand to others whom you meet on the road to healing and reconciliation. There is a home for you within our parishes and communities of faith"

(US Bishops’ 1994 pastoral message to families, Follow the Way of Love).