The new study — “Going, Going, Gone: The Dynamics of
Disaffiliation in Young Catholics” — is a wake-up call for all
Catholics, not just for people involved in youth ministry.
on interviews with young Catholics, the qualitative research project
explains how they became disaffiliated, mostly over time, with feelings
of having the faith thrust on them as children, of somehow being
alienated or of being a good person without the ‘burden’ of religious
rituals. They also might outright reject the Church and its teachings,
or have doubts because their questions about the Catholic faith haven’t
been answered adequately.
Whatever the reasons — and there many —
Catholic adults not only need to pay attention and humbly listen to the
young people’s stories but also ask questions of themselves.
the grace that the ‘disaffiliated’ are bestowing on the Church; what is
the Holy Spirit saying to us as pastoral leaders with these stories
from young adults?”asked Bob McCarty, project coordinator for the Saint
Mary’s Press study, in collaboration with CARA, the Georgetown-based
Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate.
His answer: “These stories are a mirror that they’re holding up to us. When we look at that mirror what do we see?”
Perhaps we see ourselves; that we can and should do a better job in being examples and passing on the faith.
education and youth ministry only go so far. The faith of our youth is
only as strong as the foundation of Catholic families on which it is
Disaffection happens, on average, at the age of 13,
according to the study; so youth might have checked out before even
entering high school. That means that family looms large in the faith of
As the study states: “Family dynamics frequently play a
role when young people decide to disaffiliate. For example, young
people may cite the religiosity of their parent(s), their parents mixed
faith marriage, the perceived hypocrisy in the lives of the family
members who profess religious belief or feelings of being forced to
attend Church or religious instruction as impacting their decision to
Last year, when students at Our Lady School in
Festus were asked how their parents could help them prepare for
Confirmation, one of their answers was simply, “to take them to Mass” on
It’s more than “having” to go to Mass; it’s fully
participating, doing it with joy and a smile. Being a better Catholic
starts at home; that’s the foundation of the faith for our youth.
need to pay attention, listen and be present, and serve as good role
models. They need to answer difficult questions when asked, to lend a
sympathetic ear when children or youth express doubts. Everyone has
doubts; even the great saints had doubts, as well as priests,
seminarians, religious and regular lay Catholics. That’s normal.
of the “disaffiliated” may never return to the Church, but it’s
incumbent upon us to listen and understand how and why they became
disaffiliated. Then, and only then, we as a Church can meet the
challenges disaffiliation present.